Maria Bello: “My feelings about attachment and partnership have always been that they are fluid and…

Maria Bello: “My feelings about attachment and partnership have always been that they are fluid and evolving”

And I have never understood the distinction of “primary” partner. Does that imply we have secondary and tertiary partners, too? Can my primary partner be my sister or child or best friend, or does it have to be someone I am having sex with? I have two friends who are sisters who have lived together for 15 years and raised a daughter. Are they not partners because they don’t have sex? And many married couples I know haven’t had sex for years. Are they any less partners?

Maria Bello for all the marbles! “I would like to consider myself a ‘whatever,’” she writes at the end of this Modern Love column. I’ve been reading sensational reposts about this all morning (“Maria Bello Admits to Being Totally Gay!!”) but the actual piece is as graceful, low-key, and no-nonsense as we’d all expect from our favorite bar manager Lil. [NYTimes]