Ask Baba Yaga: I’ve Been Single for 9 Years & I Feel Like I’m Missing All the Boats

Dear Baba Yaga,

I’m 33 years old, and I have been single for almost NINE YEARS. I haven’t been unhappy! Or at least only sort of. But I feel like I’m hiding from life in my endless single-ness. I think I could be happy in a relationship, but I haven’t even really tried. I haven’t really sought out, or stumbled on, anything. Everywhere I look, friends are getting married and having babies. I feel like I’m missing the boat. I feel like I’m missing all the boats! What should I do? Should I force myself to “get out there?” Should I accept myself as-is? Love feels so distant, and alien and unfathomable to me now.

BABA YAGA:

) You are too young to stand on the land forever. There will always be boats, but is it truly that you wish to catch your first when you are Crone? — To be . a true Well & Good Crone as I you must have had many transformations, many lives & shapes. What is : distant alien unfathomable is what boat-riders go in seek of. You have much time yet to spend in comfort & the being with things you know. If unspoken to, what is alien & unfathomable in you will drag behind you ( always like a mangled & uncared-for boat.

Previously: “Is Intuition Even a Thing?”

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She’s taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at [email protected].