The Sound of Your Hymen Falling in the Woods

The always interesting blue milk on the rhetoric of teen sexuality:

‘Saving yourself’ can obviously also lend itself to an exploitative situation where male sexual pleasure is centred in sexual activity. Here’s how that works. You’re a girl and you’re having sexual encounters with boys (is it different for girls only hooking up with other girls?), and they’re very nice and you’re very attracted to them but they are not ‘the special one’ so for as long as possible you end up choosing sexual activities that don’t involve your precious, precious virginity. The safest activities for this are those aimed solely at his sexual pleasure. With some friends I think this established a pattern that took them years to overcome in their sex lives.

While we’re on the topic, virginity is a construct and chastity belts were mostly a myth made up for historical BDSM novels. Discuss!