Significant Others vs. Career

I feel like I have to choose between my career or family before I have either. Is there any way this could work? I’m just being selfish, right? To want to leave for four years and ask him to wait for me. He has said he would, but he’s incredibly hurt that I even applied for the position.

Advice columns are all around us, including on The Daily’s Tumblr, where a distraught young woman got offered a faraway job but still likes her boyfriend. The advice is a little flip, but is it sound?